My mental health action plan

As you know I shared a very honest post yesterday about my mental health? Well here’s how I’m going to get better/ be more social:

My carer hit the nail on the head, I associate pain with being out.

The Plan

Monday: Bath Day – A carer will have my car on Monday for two hours where I’ll be able to run errands into town and keep a personal beauty maintenance i.e.: wax legs, gel polish, hair died, eyebrow wax. I’ll then be able to pick up my writing magazine from WHSmith’s as well as my other periodicals like Cosmo, fiction Weekly.

Tuesday: Bed Bath – I have an hour so I’d like to go for a walk and maybe stop at the garden centre for a cup of tea. Book appointments for my eyes, to see the nurse, hair etc.

Wednesday: Bath day– This will be my library day because even though I like to read books on my kindle I still like to go and see what the library will have to offer. Also I’ll be printing out forms I need for my online degree course and filling out my bus pass form and posting them on the same day so I don’t have to rely on my mum. Perhaps I’ll join the evening bookclub and because it’s lighter evenings I can walk home myself.

Thursday: Bath Day – Skills day. I want to learn to cook a basic meal and practise things when I’m living on my own such as folding clothes, washing up, makeup application, hairstyles and pick out my outfits for the week.

Friday: Bed Bath – My ‘day off’ i’ll try and maintain going for an hour walk after lunch. But this day will mainly be relaxing, again chasing appointments and ordering medical supplies, making sure my prescription hasn’t run out. Plus blogging and book stuff

Saturday: Bath Day – Whilst my parents run their usual errands I’ll get in my chair, go for a walk and spend the rest of the day writing down the garden center. Home by 3:30 so carers can put me to bed – mum and dad respite night.

Sunday: make a point of ringing Sue, Roz, Craig. Check in with the girls on Twitter. Do something nice with family instead of watching sport – F1 excluded.

Why have I put my wash days in bold.?

Sometimes I get so down or in pain that I don’t want to bother with a bath, getting dressed or brushing my hair. This motivates me (this will be printed off and put on my bedroom wall and fridge.

Other aims

  • Have a portion of fruit with every meal
  • Have a proper breakfast like cereal or toast
  • Toast isn’t Lunch
  • Remembering to put fuel in van
  • Keeping up with hydrocortisone
  • Try and stay up till at least 8:45pm

This plan is halfway to getting back to my bubbly fifteen year old self before my back got injured – the rest is up to me.

Thank you for all the love and support and even though it feels though your worlds falling a part take a breath and take control.

Thanks for the love and support!

RM.

Don’t be embarrassed to talk about Mental Health, if you need to – go and seek help.

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Tuesday Tips when publishing a book

Here’s what I’ve learned when getting my book to print:

Your chapter heads should be in bold

The main text in at least a size 12-14 font that is clear to read (I used Baskerville)

Your first draft isn’t going to be your last draft (for example, even though I used a proofreading tool, there were still major errors in the published manuscript , so now I’ve employed and editor) I think C and C has nowadays total of nine drafts. So for now it’s not on the market until it’s perfect.

The manuscript should be a least be spaced by 2cm

You need to know your audience and who you’re selling too. You need to find its unique selling point (mine was that it had a theme of friendship becoming your family and it to begin your own opinions and morals, in dire situations.)

The title of the book should appear on every page and so should the page number in the footer.

Use social media to promote your book – never pay for promotion it’s likely to be a scam.

Make sure the book cover is simple and aimed at your genre.

Don’t pester people to buy your book, if anything it deters people.

When you do publish your book, you need to advertise it so make or ask someone to make a professional marketing bundle.

Interact with other authors to gain readers, post and exclusive chapter on your webpage and host giveaway. Use the #writingcommunity in every Facebook, Instagram and twitter post and join in with dropping your links.

If you have any specific questions come and contact me.


A HUGE THANK YOU TO SANDY CEE WHO IS OVERHAULING THE POOR GRAMMAR IN MY OWN WORK SO IT’S OF A GOOD QUALITY FOR YOU TO READ.

Monday Rant: Staff ‘refused to let a severely autistic boy, 15, onto a Ryanair flight from Alicante after trying to charge his family a £25 carry-on fee for the teenager’s comfort doll’

This is ridiculous, nothing shows me with this airline. They are an utter farce. This poor family, not to mention how they ridiculed him in front other passengers. Travelling with a disability is hard enough. Don’t make it harder.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6972105/Ryanair-tried-charge-autistic-boy-25-fee-comfort-doll.html

Well done Jet2 for stepping up to the plate. Compassion for disabled people and

anyone for that matter.

it’s incidents like this that put disabled people off of travelling.

We don’t need to more barriers, we need human common sense.

What do you think? Get involved in the comments.

If you are planning on travelling especially in a wheelchair please see my ‘ Travelling with a wheelchair tips’ post in the Disability category.

Mental Health Update

Dear readers,

Whilst my online persona and book are getting more recognition, it makes me happy for a second.

Then the gloom comes in. Whilst I’d love to get out independently this gloom hugs me tight like a weighted blanket and I don’t know why and finding it really hard to break free, no matter how much tough love I get, it makes me feel like a failure because I can’t even prove them wrong. Now usually that would give me the kick I need. I just don’t know what’s stopping me being bubbly…

The first step is to see the doctor. The second is to maybe see a counsellor? I think this is the first time where I’m envious of people enjoying their 20’s! For the first time ever my disability is controlling me instead of me calling the shots and that’s tough.

All I know is I have a great support system who may be frustrated but I know who loves me, even when they are being tough.

Phew, confession over! I know I need a cuppa (maybe joining slimming world will help give some confidence??

I know one thing, less TV and less junk food and a walk once a day before my uni degree starts and I’m swamped with work!

The fact that I know my signs of slipping are good so I can find away to fix them and go back to being me.

Take care of yourselves and be patient when loved ones are being tough – they don’t like seeing you go through this.

Love,

RM

Music Monday!

  1. Cover girl by Ru Paul
  2. Really don’t care by Demi Lovato.
  3. Roar by Katy Perry.
  4. applause by Lady Gaga
  5. Praying by Kesha
  6. Independent Woman by Destiny’s Child
  7. Salute by Little Mix
  8. Stronger by Britney Spears
  9. Don’t be so hard on yourself by Jess Glynn
  10. Most girls by Pink