Fashion reminder: Handbags are seasonal too.

It’s time to put away those big bulky brown tote bags and swap it for something like colourful/floral/bamboo/style

My brown Carvella is safely stored away for winter when we carry a whole pharmacy in our bags and at least 1 smashed lipstick and broken compact, two broken umbrellas and if your studying maybe… some class notes/books/first aid kit/school supplies – keys, phone and deodorant and hair brush

Or you are one of these ‘mums never ending always prepared’ bag packers who’s bags are always kath Kidston. (that’s mainly me even though I haven’t got kids)

All I’m saying is you need to downsize your handbag and trim your necessities and brighten up your palate for the summer months ahead

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Fashion Friday: HELP

Ugh.. how hard is it to find an outfit for a @MichaelBuble concert with a budget of £75 for dress, shoes, and bag? I 💙light blue and want to wear an evening gown as I’m 21 and my usual tea dresses I see as day wear soooo Nothing too short because of catheter and not too long bc wheels💙 Every detail has to be perfect. I’m going to be in the room with the Frank Sinatra of our generation. He might not see me in the crowd but, this going to be the best night ever. FYI to my date; scrub nice and no moaning! you are making your daughter tearfully happy.

My mental health action plan

As you know I shared a very honest post yesterday about my mental health? Well here’s how I’m going to get better/ be more social:

My carer hit the nail on the head, I associate pain with being out.

The Plan

Monday: Bath Day – A carer will have my car on Monday for two hours where I’ll be able to run errands into town and keep a personal beauty maintenance i.e.: wax legs, gel polish, hair died, eyebrow wax. I’ll then be able to pick up my writing magazine from WHSmith’s as well as my other periodicals like Cosmo, fiction Weekly.

Tuesday: Bed Bath – I have an hour so I’d like to go for a walk and maybe stop at the garden centre for a cup of tea. Book appointments for my eyes, to see the nurse, hair etc.

Wednesday: Bath day– This will be my library day because even though I like to read books on my kindle I still like to go and see what the library will have to offer. Also I’ll be printing out forms I need for my online degree course and filling out my bus pass form and posting them on the same day so I don’t have to rely on my mum. Perhaps I’ll join the evening bookclub and because it’s lighter evenings I can walk home myself.

Thursday: Bath Day – Skills day. I want to learn to cook a basic meal and practise things when I’m living on my own such as folding clothes, washing up, makeup application, hairstyles and pick out my outfits for the week.

Friday: Bed Bath – My ‘day off’ i’ll try and maintain going for an hour walk after lunch. But this day will mainly be relaxing, again chasing appointments and ordering medical supplies, making sure my prescription hasn’t run out. Plus blogging and book stuff

Saturday: Bath Day – Whilst my parents run their usual errands I’ll get in my chair, go for a walk and spend the rest of the day writing down the garden center. Home by 3:30 so carers can put me to bed – mum and dad respite night.

Sunday: make a point of ringing Sue, Roz, Craig. Check in with the girls on Twitter. Do something nice with family instead of watching sport – F1 excluded.

Why have I put my wash days in bold.?

Sometimes I get so down or in pain that I don’t want to bother with a bath, getting dressed or brushing my hair. This motivates me (this will be printed off and put on my bedroom wall and fridge.

Other aims

  • Have a portion of fruit with every meal
  • Have a proper breakfast like cereal or toast
  • Toast isn’t Lunch
  • Remembering to put fuel in van
  • Keeping up with hydrocortisone
  • Try and stay up till at least 8:45pm

This plan is halfway to getting back to my bubbly fifteen year old self before my back got injured – the rest is up to me.

Thank you for all the love and support and even though it feels though your worlds falling a part take a breath and take control.

Thanks for the love and support!

RM.

Don’t be embarrassed to talk about Mental Health, if you need to – go and seek help.

Wheelchairs and sex: QOTD

One reason I’m very upfront and overshare about this is because it’s such a misconception that people in wheelchairs can’t have sex or be sexy — and they’re just lying there, so how can that be sexy? But there’s a lot I can still do in the bedroom, and I still think our sex life is better than the average married couple’s.

– Rachelle Friedman via cosmopolitan

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