Life in a wheelchair: A summary

Dear able-bodied people, this is the summary what it’s like to be in a wheelchair and I hope you never find yourself in that situation. But,if you do, be prepared to be the ‘inspiration’ to your friends, even strangers just for doing silly things like; taking a train ride without a ‘caregiver’. Of course you’ll face discrimination but of course ableism too and the list below is just a small insight:

1) When you take your wheelchair for repair, you won’t see it again for 300 years.

2) people immediately use singsong tone of voice when they see a person using wheels.

3) You always have to act grateful for help you didn’t need.

4) A shop isn’t accessible if it’s got a tiny step at the front.

5) People pat your head and bend down to you.

6) Don’t leave your chair in the sun, you’ll burn your bum when you get back in.

7) You will be confronted with the miracle in the alcohol meme and so called friends will find hilarious.

8) You always get the view of people’s behinds.

9) doorways being too small.

10) Ableism and inspirational porn.

At my mentors book signing

On this day my best friend gave me a typewriter; was the day I became a writer

The rest of thee photos show me in my wheelchair in New York City on a visit in 2014

All personal photos ©️ Rachel Marie.

I hope you all enjoyed this post and have learnt something from it. It is so easy to fall into these habits, people in wheelchairs are just people who want to get on with the day, not to necessarily be your inspiration or make you feel good about yourself if someone in a wheelchair is asking for help and doing it for praise or major props with friends and family. You don’t help someone because you feel sorry for them You do it just because you saw another person struggling to get through the day and needs a hand to make it better

You don’t get an instant helo around your head. Be aware of ableism, it can be very patronising and eeven border on bullying help us in the disabled community stamp it out by not doing the things on the above list.

Many thanks,

A Wheelchair user, who is also an author and has Chronic fatigue syndrome but she still remains to be bad ass with her humor and has a wardrobe bursting with vintage clothes… My friends think she has a shopping problem not just the vintage clothes for her on dying love for reading and needing a box to writing my friends think she has a shopping problem not just the vintage clothes for her undying love for reading and and need to buy notebooks to wwrite her short sttories in

By the way, my debut novel, carefree and consequence is available to buy on my blog for which will take you Amazon. The reviews speak for themselves. Available in paperback, hardback large print and, kindle. You don’t actually need a Kindle device to read this book you can just download it from your App Store. Or aask in your local library to order you a copy.

My second project is completing a list of writing prompts and putting them together in an anthology for sale. There are so many genres I can showcase then with this book. You can see my romantic side, you can see my funny side, you can see my spooky side, you can see mmy thriller side and you can see my serious side too. It will be a mixture of poetry and prose and trying to finish it by March 7 2021.

For now, go buy my book and see how you like my romantic side and love for the 1950s

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Throwback Thursday: Pastel Princess

Outfit of the day: pastel princess

Skirt: Primark
Vest: Primark
Shoes: Primark
Cardigan: Cery’s Closet.

This is fast becoming a staple outfit in my wardrobe. The mini petticoat gives the modern tule skirt a vintage twist. The shoes are ballerina flats with a lace detail and the cardigan just tops off the outfit with its rose detail, tying in with the pink skirt. Full fringes are great for vintage looks.
If you want you could team with a pearl necklace and earrings to take it from casual to evening.

Red sunset by the River

Silks of red and burnt orange hang in between windows like a staged sunset. Hindi floats in the air as they converse the daily struggles. Their hands are worn and so are their eyes. Even as they beat their washing against uneven stones that stands at banks of rivers the long travelled dust settles on their clothes like snow flakes in the July heat. The maitrachs backs are bent and their movements synchronised Bollywood dancing in scilence with only the hindi and the river’s slaps against the banks to accompany them. Girls’s innocence are covered in white cloths. This is their future ubless something changes. Inspired The King and I

New manageable project whilst in pain: Short and Sweet.

I think this may be book 2: 365 writing prompts turned into completed compositions/poetry gathered into anthology.. ‘When it’s Me with a pen and paper versus ME and Persistent pain’. One small piece of writing a day approximately 500 words per page, with the actual prompt written for you at the top of the page (so you know what’s going on.) It’s a prompt book with all different genres.. you’ll get to see my spooky side, my thriller side and my funny side!! Obviously, the book will also give i#nformation on what ME is, some helpful tips and tricks and some organisations that can help.

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Right now I don’t have to worry about complicated scenes just yet. I just need to get over promoting my first book and getting my arthritis under control. My next big drama will be probably out by the end of next year. But I’m going to focus on this funny little project first. Do you think it’s a good idea? I’ve given myself the deadline of March 2020… Prompt or two a day; will bring you short compositions (like the ones I post on my blog from A-level) Your way.

Also please don’t forget to click on my carefree and consequence page where you can read reviews and click the links it will take you to buy you a copy on Amazon whether that be paperback, hardback large print, or kindle. Every ounce of support helps and you also gain recognition for what they worked hard for over the years and for not giving up

Rachel’s Reccomended Reads

The Storyteller’s Secret: A Novel

The Perfect Child

A Daughter’s Courage: An utterly heartbreaking novel of family secrets, tragedy and love

Beneath an Indian Sky: A heartbreaking historical novel of family secrets, betrayal and love

The Lost Daughter of India: A heartbreaking novel of tragedy and secrets that will have you hooked

That’s Another Story: The Autobiography

The Dressmaker

A Talent for Murder (Agatha Christie 1)

A Different Kind of Evil (Agatha Christie 2)

As the Sun Breaks Through (The Cliffehaven Series Book 15)

The Woman on the Orient Express

Adele

Lullaby

Seasons in Time: (1940s Time-travel Romance) (Time & Again Antique Shop)

Bollywood Wives: An addictive, sexy, gripping thriller that will have you hooked

The Paris Seamstress: Transporting, Twisting, the Most Heartbreaking Novel You’ll Read This Year

Her Mother’s Secret

Cinderella’s Dress (Fairy-tale Inheritance Series Book 1)

Cinderella’s Shoes (Fairy-tale Inheritance Series Book 2)

Snow White’s Mirror (Fairy-tale Inheritance Series Book 3)

Kissed: Belle; Sunlight and Shadow; Winter’s Child (Once Upon a Time)

Once: Before Midnight; Golden; Wild Orchid (Once Upon a Time)

Fairytale: Escape with a Magical Story of Love, Family and Hope

The Secret Mother: A gripping psychological thriller that will have you hooked

The Surrogate: A gripping psychological thriller with an incredible twist

I love retold fairytales, stories about India, autobiographies, anything set in the 1940s, and I love psychological thrillers. Here is a few of my favourites for you to peruse… enjoy my lovelies!

You’ll be so proud of me as I’m a hoarder I managed to take some books that were taking up space in my room to the charity.

Music Monday

  • Two doors down by Dolly Parton
  • Sucker by The Jonas Brothers.
  • Sorry not sorry by Demi Lovato
  • Razzmattaz by John Travolta
  • My funny Valentine by Michael Buble
  • Better get to livin’ by Dolly Parton
  • Dance with Somebody by Whitney Huston
  • Fly with Me by The Jonas Brothers
  • Love me and let me go by Ashley Tisdale.
  • All shook up by Elvis Presley
  • You and I by Dolly Parton
  • Dumb blonde by Avril Lavigne
  • Warrior by Avril Lavigne
  • I like it like that By Cardi B
  • Love wins by Carrie Underwood
  • Beautiful by Bethany Dillon

Self care Sunday tips

  1. Organise your week ahead so you know what you need to deal with – For example personal appointments in blue ink and work related appointments in black
  2. Write yourself a list for every day with things/small tasks you need fo accomplish – using the green, amber and red colour coding system.
    Print out any essential handouts for work or class and make annotations on them ready to bring up at the seminar/meeting
    Decided your outfits ready for the week.
    Shave and wax.
    Get a manicure done
  1. Don a hydrating face mask, then cleanse and moisturerize
  2. Replenish any handbag essentials like a spare cardigan/plasters/makeup/healthy snacks
  3. Lie in a hot bubbly bath, light a few candles/incense and relax with a paperback you’ve been dying to read.
  1. Straighten your hair the night before
  2. Prepare your lunch and breakfast
  3. Listen to positive music
  4. Get an early night
  5. Charge all devices